Getting Married

Getting Married

I promise to love, honor and cherish you all the days of our lives.

Wedding ringsMy son is getting married! On his wedding day, there will be vows exchanged, rings slipped happily on fingers, the traditional mother and son dance, cake cut and flowers gracing tables. Tears dabbed with tissues passed among the well-wishers. My joy will blow the top off my happy meter. My husband Mark and I will pose for photos with the newlyweds and family members who have come together to celebrate Adam’s joy and the beginning of his lifetime entwined with his beloved.

If you’re picturing the scene, you might be seeing my son resplendent in his tuxedo and the bride on his arm in her snowy white finery. But if you know our family, you know the true picture. On my Adam’s arm, is his Adam, aka Marv, also resplendent in his tuxedo. That’s right, my son is about to become half of “The Adams Family,” as my cousin Janice lovingly joked.

For those of you who have religious views about marriage ordained by God, I challenge you to open your minds and hearts. Love is colorblind and gender neutral. Until the day I die and get the chance to talk to God in spirit, I believe a benevolent God wants all of her children to find happiness and love in a partner. Woman and Man, Woman and Woman, Man and Man

11 Responses »

  1. I am happy for you and I support you. I understand fully not all family members will agree with you. I enjoy your writing. My best for all of. I truly believe that God wants us to be happy.

  2. I heard Matthew Vines on NPR with Diane Rheim. He was great. Congratulations to you and
    the Adams. I’m sure you will make it a lovely celebration! XO

    And I’m awaiting your post about the happenings in Baltimore. I’m so sorry for
    that city right now.

  3. i am in total agreement with you Miss Vicky…the love the Adams have for each other deserves the recognition of a legal marriage. Marriage is exactly as you have said in your blog. Love has no boundaries or limits. I am looking forward to the day the Adams officially become The Adams Family!! We love them so much.

  4. I wondered when you would write this story. Anyone who knows Adam would be elated at his choice in life. He is so giving and so loving. This will be a marriage that will last until death parts them. I will always love him and the wonderful mother and father that gave him his great values. love ya, Carol

  5. congratulations! You have said it very well, I agree with you and wish the Adams much happiness.

  6. Dear Family and Friends,
    Thank you for your support of our sons and Adam and Adam’s upcoming marriage. It means to the world to us. Our hearts are full with the blessing of love and kindness you share with us. The wedding post will be a cause for celebration…though it won’t be for some time to come.

    With love and appreciation,

  7. Congratulations to your son Vicky! This is a beautifully written post and I for one stand by you and your family! I too am completely perplexed by certain people’s viewpoint. Why should your son’s legal commitment to his partner affect the sanctity of marriage? I applaud your efforts to understand the other viewpoint and I hope and pray that others would extend to you and your family the same courtesy. Best wishes to you all!

    • Thanks for your support Cheri-Ann! This is a joyful time for our family, and another teachable moment for families who want to celebrate with unabashed joy. I believe the Supreme Court will honor the rights of gay couples to legally marry in any of our fine United States!

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